Hello there, guys! This past week has been incredibly hectic due to all of my moving out procedures. For those of you who don’t know, I am moving from Spain to Boston to start a graduate program there. Even though I am extremely excited about this new step in my career, I am also feeling really anxious about all the preparation and things that I have to do before I leave. Thank god, I have great parents that are helping me with everything (even though we live 3.000 miles away).
They have always been around and supported all of my decisions (even when everyone else thought I was crazy). So, I was inspired to write a post about them and what they have taught me throughout the past 26 years.
Giving before getting
Generosity. That is one of the most important lessons I learned from my parents. I still remember those Christmas mornings when, just after opening our gifts, my sister and I had to decide which toys we were going to give to charity. One in meant one out. That was the deal. That way my house was never crowded with unused toys and we learned the importance of giving.
My sister and I, who are just 2 years apart in age, always had to share everything. Clothes, toys, a room and even our first laptop. We learned that generosity was the key to be happy at a very young age. My parents taught us this philosophy that you should give money, time and attention to those in need, not expecting anything from them. And may I say, giving always ended up being more rewarding than getting.
Education is always an investment
I remember a time when I was really young, maybe one or two years old, when my parents and I spent some time living in my grandparents’ guestroom. Obviously, for me, it was just a fun experience at the time, but later on, my parents told me that we were living there because we couldn’t pay the rent. That kind of shocked me because I knew that my siblings and I had always gone to private schools and nurseries, even at that young age. I asked my Mom why wouldn’t they just take us out of private school so that we could have a house. Let me tell you I will never forget her answer:
“It was a huge sacrifice we had to make. Your father and I talked about it and thought that your education was the best investment. We want you to have everything you deserve, and your school was great and you all were doing so good that we didn’t want to take that away from you. Always remember that education is not an expense, is an investment.”
They thought that better times would come, financially speaking, and they did. They just knew that our education was the priority at that young age. Even though there are a lot of amazing public schools, my sister and I loved our private school and we are really grateful that they made such a huge sacrifice to keep us there.
Work to get what you want
My parents have never denied us anything that we needed. We had a great house, delicious food, and nice clothes. But if my siblings and I wanted something as a whim, we would have to work for it. When we were younger it was easier, as the treats we desired were less expensive. As we grew older we had to work throughout the year to get it.
I remember being 16 and really wanting a new computer. As I said, my sister and I were sharing our first laptop, but I felt I needed one for myself to finish my schoolwork. My parents wouldn’t buy another one, because the one we had worked perfectly well. Luckily, they offered the opportunity to find me a summer job that would pay for it. Therefore, I stayed the entire month of July in Madrid working in a call center, while my brother and sister were at our beach house with my grandma,. I was paid 800 euros and felt so rich… I learned the value of money and how hard was to earn it.
My parents have always taught us by experience, not just long lectures. For us, it has always been the best way to learn that you have to work to get what you want in life.
We all are different
My brother, my sister and I are three very different people. I am the oldest and I am quite shy. I enjoy staying at home watching a movie or reading. My sister, on the other hand, is outgoing and loud. She loves going out and trying new crazy things. We both were really good at school, while my brother, who is a mix of both of us, had a harder time there.
Since we all were really young we realized that my parents’ expectations were different for each of us. They were stricter with my sister and I (school wise), while a bit more relaxed with my brother. They let me go out almost every time I asked, while they controlled my sister a bit more. The three of us had chores and the same bedtime routine, and we had to eat the same meals. But we were different, and my parents knew it.
When I was younger it really bugged me that my parents praised my brother for getting a B when I was getting straight A+ and they didn’t make a big deal out of it. Now, looking back, I realize how hard it was for my brother to get good grades and how easy it was for me.
I love how different we all are and how people are amazed that we are siblings. My parents knew how to let our personalities flourish by educating each of us individually. We all have the same values, but we are three totally different people.
Open-mind and internationalization
Can you imagine a four-year-old and two-year-old watching cartoons in a foreign language? Well, that was us. My sister and I weren’t allowed to watch Cartoon Network if it wasn’t in English. And we loved Cartoon Network! Therefore, I don’t remember a stage in my life when I haven’t understood both Spanish and English. And that is all thanks to my parents.
They knew that the world was a global environment and that opportunities out there were given to those open-minded and with an international set up. We were always encouraged to study abroad and go to summer camps to different countries to improve our English and French.
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Also, when my sister and I were already in college, my parents were transferred to Istambul to work there. Two years later they moved to Dubai. Finally, for the past 3 years, they have been living in Jordan. We all three have had the opportunity to be surrounded by different cultures, learn multiple traditions and engage with people who see the world in a completely different way. This had broadened up my mind and taught me the importance of tolerance and respect. We all are human beings and should be treated the same way around the world.
So, there you have it guys! Just five out of the many lessons my parents taught me. What do you think? Do you relate to any of them? Leave your comments down below and let me know what you are thankful for! 🙂
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